Being a mother is the toughest job in the world. It’s a job that constantly requires you to keep learning & unlearning with no set format. There are many Parenting experts but again each one of us has different temperamental & each child is different. From the time you come home with your newborn, you’re in a new world of intensively caring environment that can leave you feeling overwhelmed and stressed at times. But beyond the day-to-day chores and tasks of changing diapers, soothing crying children, and breastfeeding, being a mom also brings a host of emotional challenges.
New moms often feel a wide range of emotions, including joy, bliss, pride as well as stress, sadness, confusion sometimes leading to depression as well. Breastfeeding is one challenge – but the emotional challenges of being a new mom color everything in your life. Moms are under too much pressure trying to give the Best to the Babies and then blame themselves for every mistake or shortcoming. You might expect yourself to become The Super Mom, but it’s not that easy – especially when you are sleep-deprived and learning how to do dozens of small-yet-complex childcare tasks for the first time.
We might lack confidence, feel insecure, or burdened by responsibility. Our hormones are changing drastically leaving you with the feeling of depression & loss of Self-identity. Another challenge of breastfeeding infants is that during the early weeks, it might not seem that we have a full relationship with our child yet. We might not be able to find a proper way to communicate with the baby or understand him/her, other than the breastfeeding sessions.
Often we might feel that the world has changed completely. House becomes messy like never before, we start neglecting our partner & also feel being neglected. We can never find time for ourselves & even if you squeeze out time for self, the guilt feeling always runs in our mind. Even if we plan to get back to work, guilt & frustration always walk with us.
Loss of personal time and personal space is something to deal with for every new mom – being alone all day with an infant can be exhausting, and it’s OK to feel low at times.
Perhaps the biggest emotional challenge for new moms and mothers-to-be is simply fear of the unknown – how will we cope with all the challenges of being a mom, how will we balance various needs and demands of our family, our spouse, and our life outside the home? What are parenting styles? what are some essential parenting skills?
Being a mom is just the beginning of choices that affect you and your child’s life. There will always be choices but to pick the best for your child is your decision. You are the only person accountable for everything about your child’s growth & development. Worrying about giving The Best to your Baby, leave you feeling dissatisfied with your decision & efforts.
Do remember that every mom walks through the same journey. Try seeking help from family, friends & experts. There is no harm in asking
*What are some great parenting tips for Indian parents?
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*Which are the best mobile apps for parenting in India?
It’s natural to have some fears about how to be a great mom but do remember No mother fails. There are always times for every mom when the babies are inconsolable.
Every mom takes some time to adjust and to bond with the new-born. Motherhood might be a challenge but experts in every field are always there to help you. Look for alternatives to make life easier like using a pacifier or even carrying the baby in your arms for an hour.
Lack of sleep makes you exhausted so don’t shy to seek help from partner & family to catch up with your sleep. Try using some sleep method for babies like Music therapy.
After nursing the child all day long, it’s important that we rejuvenate ourselves with our choice of hobby like listening to music, sketching, going for walk, meditating, etc. or we will end up losing patience with the baby.
Here are some suggestions from experts to help you in the world’s toughest job of Being Mom
Parenting starts with pregnancy itself,
Right Food, Right Thought & Right routine
Right Food: _____ is the book which guides you on diet correction result in gaining balanced nutritious for the growth of the fetus. Though personalized diet chart from a Dietician is always the Best as it matches your taste and body requirement. (I lost 18kgs in 4 months after my delivery with help of my dietician)
Right thought: which is the best Indian parenting book?
Garbhsankar has not just helped me but millions of women during pregnancy. The mind heals the body so it’s important to read books that bring clarity to the mind.
Right Routine: Our elders always tell us about their highly active pregnancy, but we feel times have changed. Food now is adulterated. Pregnancy now is more stressful. None of the above can be denied which means we all need to focus more on healthier lifestyles with Yoga, Meditation, walk, etc. Also, understand How to nurture a child’s mental health?
I believe with proper structure & format; we can do wonders, be it in things or life.
So let us move forward step by step. Here is my checklist for your Hospital Bag :
- Photo id
- Insurance paper if your maternity is covered in Health insurance.
- Cord banking registration
- Mobile charger
- Maternity wear
- Feeding Bra
- Loose innerwear
- Maternity sanitary ware
- Nursing pads
- Nipple cream
- Cotton to cover ears
- Scarf to cover the head
- Hand sanitizer
- Pocket hand wash
- Infant Bodysuits
- Diaper rash cream
- Changing mat
- Baby Basket
- Feeding bottles
- Baby Muslin squares
- Things to keep ready at Home
- Baby cot
- Bed set
- Baby stroller
- Baby sheets
- Baby Blankets
- Muslin squares
- Baby pillow
- Baby towels
- Baby napkins
- Bath toys
- Baby bathtub
- Foldable cupboard
- Dry sheets
- Milk powder
- Feeding bottles
- Bottle and straw cleaning kit
- Bottle sterilizer
- Breast pump
- Baby grooming kit
- Body wash
- Baby shampoo
- Baby oil(I prefer Almond oil)
- Baby lotion
- Nappy rash cream
- Easy baby wash
- When the child turns six months
- Baby chair
- Car seat
- Baby sack
- Toys and big picture books for six months
Also here are some essential parenting tips by the Top Mentors of India